2. “You’re not ambitious enough”

Telling your partner they lack ambition or they are not as ambitious as you’d like them to be can sound as criticism rather than an attempt to push them. What feels to you like a lack of drive from his side may be him taking slow steps towards a goal.

3. “You’re exactly like your dad”

If your partner exhibits a habits you are not happy with, be sure to point that out without dragging family into the matter. Comparing him with his father may sound like judgement or even insult, depending on his relationship with his dad. By avoiding these sorts of comparisons, you can help put a stop to any generational trauma.

4. “I don’t need you”

Even if you are an independent woman who can do everything by herself, don’t say that in front of your partner. The truth is that men love to be needed, and telling them they are not will likely feel them useless. Making sure your partner is appreciated won’t make you weak, on the contrary, it will strengthen your relationship even further.

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