A narcissist feeds on constant attention. They don’t seek a genuine emotional connection, but rather use others as a mirror in which to reflect their own idealized image. What they want is admiration, superiority, control.
When someone stops paying attention to them or simply shows emotional indifference, a rupture occurs in their internal structure. Their self-esteem is not based on a healthy core, but on external validation.
That’s why silence, emotional distance, and a lack of response are powerful weapons. It’s not about educating them, arguing, or winning an argument. It’s about getting out of the game. And when there is no longer an opponent, the narcissist loses their reason for being.
How to use this weakness to your advantage
1. Take the spotlight away
Preventing the narcissist from being the center of attention is a direct blow to their ego. In a conversation, don’t react to their provocations or engage in their emotional games. Maintain neutrality, even if you feel affected inside. The lack of reaction makes them invisible, and that destabilizes them
