Narcissists hate boundaries because they interpret them as rejection. But therein lies your strength. Don’t over-explain, don’t get into endless dialogues: just state your position and stick to it. They expect you to back down or feel guilty. Don’t.
3. Stop seeking their validation
One of the most effective ways to break free from their control is to stop needing their approval. The narcissist thrives on you seeking them out, on you needing them. If you break that dynamic, they become unbalanced. Focus on yourself, your projects, your growth.
4. Leverage their obsession with public image
The narcissist cares deeply about how others see them. In public situations, you can set boundaries more effectively, as they will try to preserve their “perfect” image. This can work in your favor to create healthier spaces.
Why indifference hurts so much
The reason indifference disarms the narcissist is simple: without attention, they don’t know who they are. Their identity is based on how others perceive them. When there’s no one to admire, criticize, or follow them, they face emptiness.
And that emptiness confronts them with their own emotional instability, which can lead to anger, anxiety, or even depression.
This doesn’t happen because you attacked them, but because you didn’t give them the one thing they truly care about: control over your emotions.
