When children drift away: that silent distance that breaks families without breaking love.

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  1. When the past prevents us from seeing the adult we have become

Another difficulty arises when the past takes up too much space. Constantly talking about the child one once was, without fully acknowledging the adult one has become, can create the feeling of being trapped in a role that no longer exists. Many children then feel reduced to an earlier version of themselves, when what they really want is to be recognized for their current choices, their progress, and their present challenges. This recognition paves the way for sincere exchanges, the kind that truly bring people closer. In this emotional distance, there are neither guilty parties nor ungrateful ones: only different sensitivities seeking their place. Between worried parents and protective children, a gap can widen… but it is never insurmountable.

Returning to each other, gently

The key to reconciliation is often simpler than we imagine:

  • listen without correcting;
  • ask without insisting;
  • to welcome without comparing;
  • acknowledge without minimizing.

A question can transform an exchange:
“Who are you today?”
It opens a new dialogue, free from the expectations of the past.

Because the real tragedy isn’t that the children move away physically: it’s when home ceases to be a place where one feels heard. And that can always be fixed.

Sometimes all it takes is a gesture, a kinder word, a different kind of conversation for the heart to take a step forward. Because even when distance grows, love never disappears: it simply waits for the right moment to reclaim its rightful place.